To Cheat or Not to Cheat
Earlier today, a family friend of mine put up a picture post on Facebook that read on the lines of this:
If a man has to beg you for sex, don't feel bad when he cheats on you.
I immediately put my two cents on this and now I've found myself in a war of words with some boy about what's right and what's wrong.
Let me put it out there: I have no problem if you want to voice your opinion. But sometimes people are idiots. That's my opinion.
I pointed out that there are numerous reasons why a woman would deny a man sex if they're in a relationship. One of the main reasons is that she's tired of being disappointed in bed. Because shit happens. The two of you may have been like wild rabbits in the beginning but there are issues that arise which would make the other partner less than appealing in the bedroom. What worked for me when I was twenty doesn't work now that I'm thirty-eight!
But the guy didn't understand this. His theory was that if there is dissatisfaction in the bed then that's a sign that things are done.
Do any of you believe that? That once the thrill is gone, there's no getting it back? Because I don't. There are plenty of ways to spice your sex life back up.
And if someone has to beg you for sex (unless the reason is that you simply don't want to have sex with them, which is unfair when it comes to a meaningful relationship), does it truly give that person a reason to cheat? My answer is that it doesn't. Because sex, while important is not the main part of a relationship (something that I tried to tell the boy but he wouldn't listen. His thing was that you only marry for either sex or money). If it's that damn important to you then you don't have a relationship, you have a booty call!
If a man has to beg you for sex, don't feel bad when he cheats on you.
I immediately put my two cents on this and now I've found myself in a war of words with some boy about what's right and what's wrong.
Let me put it out there: I have no problem if you want to voice your opinion. But sometimes people are idiots. That's my opinion.
I pointed out that there are numerous reasons why a woman would deny a man sex if they're in a relationship. One of the main reasons is that she's tired of being disappointed in bed. Because shit happens. The two of you may have been like wild rabbits in the beginning but there are issues that arise which would make the other partner less than appealing in the bedroom. What worked for me when I was twenty doesn't work now that I'm thirty-eight!
But the guy didn't understand this. His theory was that if there is dissatisfaction in the bed then that's a sign that things are done.
Do any of you believe that? That once the thrill is gone, there's no getting it back? Because I don't. There are plenty of ways to spice your sex life back up.
And if someone has to beg you for sex (unless the reason is that you simply don't want to have sex with them, which is unfair when it comes to a meaningful relationship), does it truly give that person a reason to cheat? My answer is that it doesn't. Because sex, while important is not the main part of a relationship (something that I tried to tell the boy but he wouldn't listen. His thing was that you only marry for either sex or money). If it's that damn important to you then you don't have a relationship, you have a booty call!
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